IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE - Don't Overlook The Obvious |
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Help others find this article: Digg It! or Bookmark it! Share DIFFERENT MEMORIES Simply because you remember "Yes, you did!' Sound familiar? With only a few word substitutions, many couples can remember the times when this scenario played out. - One of you accusing the other of saying something that they claim is a twisting of their words. Face it! We are all guilty, at one time or another, of 'mis-hearing' or 'mis-remembering ' a conversation. Then, of course, there is that other possibility. One which we virtually never want to admit could be the case. That our spouse truly believes they heard other words being said. - And, whether or not it is because they were distracted, or wanted to hear what would satisfy their needs, is irrelevant. - The bottom-line is that they truly believe another version of events than you do. Without attempting to manipulate you or get themselves out of trouble. Now, I am not saying that they are not purposely distorting what was actually uttered. Only that it is very likely you each simply heard something different. Have you ever watched a courtroom drama on TV where each witness to a crime remembers something very different from the others? - That represents reality. And, so does the possibility of each of you mis-hearing the other. Bottom-line, think of giving your partner the benefit of the doubt. And, if this is a chronic circumstance, then try to eliminate distractions which might be at work here. Touch base with them, later, regarding the topic. Simply to avoid a blowout, down the road.
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